How Does Sagittarius Love?

November 10th, 2014

Sag heart 1Do you love a Sagittarius?
Are you a Sagittarius in love?

Human relationships are complex, layered things.  Every sign responds to love differently and has needs that are particular to it.  Also no individual can be categorized by their Sun sign alone.  Every person is a mixed bag of astrological traits, but an emphasis on Sagittarius in your chart (or its ruling planet, Jupiter) will result in distinctly Sag (pronounce it “Sadge”) experience.  In particular, if you have the Sun or Moon in Sag OR if you have Venus or Juno in Sag, this article is just for you.

Are you a Sagittarius in love?
You are?  Frankly, that’s surprising.  No other sign has as big a case of the “grass is greener on the other side of the fence” syndrome.  Sagittarius longs for what he doesn’t have.  Remaining focused on a relationship is the hard part.  Finding a way to feel free while you’re also committed is just as difficult.  Am I just feeding your ego when I say everyone wants to date you and you’re easygoing and willing to give it a try, but you don’t feel “lit up” by just anybody?  You bring your own happiness to the mix but you are vulnerable to those you can make happy.  But you’re more than just a vaudeville act, Oh My Sagittarian, and entertaining others will never satisfy you for long.  So . . . where to find satisfaction, where oh where?

How to manage your relationships as a Sagittarius. . .
Begin by finding someone who can hold your attention.  That might take a while.  Your best choice is someone who believes in you and who agrees with you about the things that bring life meaning.  However, there’s a pitfall here—if your partner agrees with you too much, you will be allowed to lazily meander through life instead of using your Sagittarian fire for the good of all, which is what you pledged to do by being born under this inspiring sign.  So best find a partner who can question you when you stray from your own best path, kick your butt when you need that, and who will also quickly return to a state of dewy-eyed worship when you’re back on the straight and narrow.  Got that?  Right.  A rare breed, I know.

Do you love a Sagittarian?
Then you have chosen a life of adventure.  I hope you have sturdy luggage because your Sag will not be done exploring this wide earth until she croaks (even if it’s done from the safe confines of an armchair).  If you look deep into her eyes and it looks like she’s somewhere else, she probably is.  Beware of confining her to a humdrum existence—when she starts to wear a chronically trapped look, she’s likely to do some damage.  Also don’t let her do that to herself, because she’ll likely make a sudden exit and blame you.  Does it sound like a Sag requires more care and feeding than you thought?  Yes.  But mostly it’s like having a golden retriever—an active mobile creature who simply needs a good run every once in a (short) while.

If you have Venus or Juno in Sag in your chart, the chances of you dating Sagittarians is very high.  How to handle the Sagittarius you love. . .
•    Tell him you trust him and give him enough rope to hang himself with.  You’ll be surprised at how quickly he comes back, and doesn’t get into trouble at all.
•    Laugh at her jokes and enjoy the show, but in the quiet moments, when she’s entirely deflated, remind her why you believe in her.  How you respond to her when she’s not trying to be upbeat will make all the difference.
•    Encourage him to speak to groups.  Watch him expand, expound and inspire.  There’s a big personality there, itching to come out (if it hasn’t already).
•    Keep up with her.  Be active, mobile and energetic.  Don’t hold her back or jerk on the chain too much.
•    Play with him, freely and unselfconsciously, like a couple of carefree kids.  He’ll feel seen.
•    Never accuse your Sag of having bad intentions.  Always assume her intentions are of the finest, even when she’s just made a mistake of a gargantuan order (or perhaps especially then!).  A gentle correction that speaks to what she was trying to do, rather than what actually happened, will achieve wonders where all the punishment in the world fails to create anything other than a sullen, cynical human being.  And a sullen, cynical Sag is a sorry thing indeed.

How to find out more:
In this article there’s only room to hint at the deeper understanding of Sagittarius that astrology has to offer.  To find out more about being a Sagittarius in Love or loving a Sagittarius, join my free teleclass on Thursday, December 11, 2014, at 5:00pm PT/8:00pm ET.  There I’ll be saying much, much more about Sag In Love and there will be discounts available too!

Not a Sag?  Find out about YOUR sign in love by joining the free teleclass for it, coming up in your birthday month:
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How To Search For Your Birth Time

November 1st, 2014

Why is an accurate birth time important?
The birth data that’s needed by an astrologer is your date of birth, your birth town or city, and the exact time of day you were born.  Much of the information in your chart is dependant on the accuracy of your birth time to the minute, and here’s why. . .

The positions of the planets in the sky that give rise to differences in personality move quite quickly and make a perceptible and meaningful shift every 3 minutes.  Traits move from the foreground to the background and back again so that with a difference of just 15 minutes I (the astrologer) could easily be talking to a radically different personality.  That’s confusing enough, but it gets worse:  predictions are based on very specific timing of fast-moving points in your chart.  If your time is off by even a few minutes, the dates of events and experiences in your lifetime could be off by months, or (easily) even years.  The prediction could describe a time period accurately but be off by years and any astrologer worth her salt cares about that kind of accuracy.

Brief rant
Astrology is a precise discipline, and an astrologer’s ability to interpret should never be tested using poor data.  Yet, that’s what astrologers have had to deal with for centuries.  We are told that what we do is intuitive and not scientific, yet we are expected to prove astrology’s veracity with inaccurate or incomplete birth data, because hospitals have no concept of the importance of accuracy in this matter.  Most hospital staff do not know that the official time of birth from the standpoint of astrology is the first breath.  That’s the moment when the baby takes oxygen into its cells and begins to be an entity independent of the mother.  I have found that many clients’ birth times are questionable and in need of a little testing and rectification.  So first breath is the moment that should be recorded, at least for the sake of astrology.  But that is not well-known.

This leads to poor data and astrologers—and astrology itself—are judged by how well our system works with poor data.  Where’s the sense in that?  OK, rant over.

Why your mom’s memory is not the best source
Your mom may have the best memory in the world, but even she is just reporting what someone told her or what was written on a piece of paper.  This is because no mother alive is watching a clock at the moment her child is born.  I’m an astrologer and a mother and even so, it was my husband and my very kind Ob/Gyn who noted the precise time of my daughter’s birth, not me.

Your search begins with the hospital
Begin by calling the hospital you were born in. Get the Records dept. Ask them the procedure for getting a copy of your birth record.  That is vital medical information which belongs to you and is confidential. They will probably need you to mail (or better yet, fax) a copy of your driver’s license or ID and a letter stating your birth name and that of each parent, including mother’s maiden name. They will tell you exactly what they need and where/how to send it.  Ask how long it will take to receive the record.  It is very likely they will need to dig through a lot of records to find yours and they may need weeks to do that.

It’s possible the hospital no longer has the records–they may have been transferred to microfiche (remember microfiche?) or similar media and moved to the county seat, in which case the hospital may point you in the right direction.  If the hospital has burned down, flooded or endured a war, you may be pretty much out of luck and your search may end there, so you’ll need to search the memorabilia as I describe below.  But even though the hospital is an uncertain route, it is still best to start there.

Were you a home birth?
If you were born at home via midwife, you might try the midwifery to see if they have records or if they transferred anything to the county.  If you’re lucky, they still exist, are findable and still have the records.

Do it now
For all of these reasons above, it’s best to begin searching for your birth time as soon as you realize you will want an astrology reading at some point in your life.  The records can be lost or destroyed at any time.  Don’t leave your only access to this valuable information up to chance.

Search the memorabilia
Another thing you might try while you are waiting is to ask your mom to search for any written record of any kind from the days after your birth. I have had clients find a birth announcement, baby book, hospital bracelet, hospital bassinet card and even handwriting on the back of a newborn photo.  Any of these can be a fine source, so search the memorabilia.  Even if your mom is the rambling kind, you may be surprised at what you can unearth when you press for written information.

No luck at all?
If you have nothing more than a solid birth date and a span of time that day when at least one relative assures you you were born, then rectification is possible.  (I have received inquiries from clients who don’t even have a certain birth date and whom I have had to reluctantly turn away.)  Rectification, which means “making right,” is the process of moving your birth time back and forth and finding a time when everything clicks together:  your personality and your history.  You feel that the astrologer is describing you and your experience.  It’s a very distinct sensation when it happens.

Rectification is a lot of work for the astrologer and I avoid it, or simplify it, whenever possible, because more tedious work for me means greater cost for the client and if the client can find their birth time and save us both the effort, it’s well worth it to do so.  Searching out your birth time is definitely the first course of action and rectification only a last resort.

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Sexy, Melty, Mergy Goodness: October 2014’s Solar Eclipse

October 23rd, 2014

This is a highly sensitive yet also very relational New Moon and Solar Eclipse.  Watery types will prefer to stay home and process emotions with those they are intimate with—not a bad idea if you approach it with real vulnerability and the intent to clear, let go and move on. See and accept your partner for who they truly are, and present yourself as lovable, flaws and all. Use this eclipse for bonding and your relationship will transform into a more deep, true and real version of itself.

Details About This Eclipse

Date: October 23, 2014
Time of eclipse:
2:57 PM Pacific Time
Type: partial (weak in intensity)
Visible in: North America and eastern Asia
At: 0º Scorpio
Shadow Agents: Venus in Scorpio, Neptune in Pisces
Does It Affect You Personally?

If your birthday is on any of the following dates, you’re most likely to experience this eclipse:
October 18-28
January 15-25
April 15-25
July 18-28

Remember, not every eclipse touches everyone, but when it does, it’s usually noticeable.  A solar eclipse is likely to be marked by an external, real-world event (unlike a lunar eclipse, which is likely to bring up strong emotions and to be experienced as a subjective event).  You may notice events happening anytime within the week surrounding the eclipse (up to a few days before or after).  The following script is just one possible way it could go.

You hear a knock at the door.  You answer it.  There stands Venus in Scorpio, a ravishing creature in a deep, wine-colored dress, holding hands with Neptune in Pisces, who is wearing a long cloak and a mask.  Venus sashays into your living room, tugging Neptune gently behind her.  They are absorbed in conversation and don’t even see you as they pass by.
Venus:  But don’t you understand—I don’t want that!
Neptune:  That’s what I don’t get.  Why wouldn’t anyone want that?
You decide to interrupt, as they are, after all, on your territory.
You:  Can I help you with something?
Neptune (to Venus):  All I want is to be what you want.  And I can.
Neptune’s mask melts in and reshapes itself.  The robe melds to his body and suddenly he is a virile, heroic-looking man with a chiseled face and a strong chin.  Venus can’t help but feel the tiniest bit melty, just looking at him, though she’s trying not to.
Venus:  But I don’t know who you really are!
Neptune (in a strong baritone):  Does it matter?  I know what you like.
Neptune reshapes himself and now looks like a lovely wood-nymph, with garlands of magnolia flowers in her hair and a faintly woodsy smell.  Venus melts a little bit more.  The two join hands and are just about to kiss when Venus shakes herself.
Venus:  Damn it, fooled again!  What if I just want you to be yourself?
Neptune (in a rich, throaty alto):  I don’t have a self.  And I don’t care about having one.
You:  Pardon me for interrupting, but if someone I was attracted to said that to me, I’d run for the hills.  That’s a dangerous relationship.
Neptune:  Sure it is, among humans.  But we are gods, we are larger-than-life archetypal principles.  I don’t go around telling Venus not to be sexy or to control her attractiveness—
Venus:  As if you could!  (and she bristles at the very idea.  And then, with some pride)  As if I could!
Neptune:  —and she shouldn’t tell me not to be amorphous.  Because it’s just the way I am.  And I don’t want to be any other way.  Here, look at this. . .
Neptune reaches up to her face and pulls away the mask, showing blankness underneath.
Neptune:  There really is nothing there.  I enjoy trying things on, because there’s nothing to me.  I am all things and I am nothing in particular.  It’s just my nature.  Can you accept this?
Venus:  I suppose I can, since you show me so clearly.
Neptune:  And what I really want is for you to desire something from me.  Then I can become it, I can try it on.  I want to do this many times, over and over again.  Then I come to understand all things, because I have lived and expressed them.  And that is you fulfilling my desire.
Venus (snuggling closer):  Oh, that makes me so happy!
You:  But how will the humans reading this benefit?  Because humans are not that way.  We have selves, we have identities.  We need to know who we are when we enter into relationship.
Venus:  That’s true.
Neptune:  True, indeed.  But there’s a little of each of us inside each of you.  And a little of each of you inside each of us.  How else can I try out the immense varieties of experience, so that I can come to have compassion for all life-forms?
Venus:  And humans get to be different from each other—how else can I awaken love in the human breast, if there is not enough difference to make the Beloved fascinating?  So we are glad that you humans are not pure types of us.  I mean, I may be fantastic, but does the Universe really need another Venus?  (She flips her hair casually.)
Neptune:  Of course not, my dear.  It would be simply too much.
Just then, the door opens and the Sun walks in, wearing a long, flowing robe in deep shades of rust.
Sun:  I couldn’t help overhearing, but I was busy being eclipsed.  I got here as fast as I could.  Do I hear a crisis of personality going on here?
You:  On the part of the whole human race.  If we listen to Neptune, we’ll merge and blend and lose ourselves entirely.  If we listen to Venus, we’ll fall in love with love.  And if we listen to the both of them together, we’ll have codependent relationships and live in a real mess.  Been there, done that.
Neptune:  I suppose the problem is that in water signs, we agree far too much.
Sun:  Allow me to add that one must always come back to oneself.  Forays into the realm of intimate relating are delightful and soul-deepening, but without a self to return to, how can relating even happen?
Neptune:  And without self, how can there be the wonderful loss-of-self that happens in religious experience—
Venus:  —or in love?
Sun:  Exactly.  Merging is to happen for a time only, and Venus is here to show you how.  Surrender and loss-of-self is also to happen for a time only, and Neptune is here to show you how.  This eclipse is an excellent time to practice.  But remember that the Sun, even though periodically eclipsed, will always come out again.
Neptune (rising and sending a conspiratorial look at Venus, who blushes):  That said, I think it’s time we. . .
Venus (also rising and taking his hand):  I completely agree.
Neptune passes through several shapes as they head through the door, each one making Venus blush afresh.  The Sun beams at them both, then gives you a wink and takes his leave.

Read about other eclipses this year: 2014 Eclipses.

The effects of an eclipse last for about six months.
If you’re feeling this eclipse
and you want to know what it means for you,
and especially if your birthday is in one of the spans above,
contact Jamie for a reading.

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How Does Scorpio Love?

October 10th, 2014

Scorpio heart 3Do you love a Scorpio?
Are you a Scorpio in love?

Human relationships are complex, layered things.  Every sign responds to love differently and has needs that are particular to it.  Also no individual can be categorized by their Sun sign alone.  Every person is a mixed bag of astrological traits, but an emphasis on Scorpio in your chart (or its ruling planet, Pluto) will result in distinctly Scorpion experience.  In particular, if you have the Sun or Moon in Scorpio OR if you have Venus or Juno in Scorpio, this article is just for you.

Are you a Scorpio in love?
How does Scorpio love?  That’s easy:  passionately.  Headlong.  Fervently.  To distraction.  Or not at all.  If you’re a Scorpio in love, you have my sympathy and my celebratory back-slap.  The sympathy is because you probably feel helpless and in the grip of feelings much, MUCH larger than you are.  You are capable of a grand passion which sometimes sweeps through your being like a tidal wave.  What to do?  Get on top of the wave and enjoy the ride.  How?  By surrendering to it.  Which brings me to the congratulatory back-slap.  Because if you are newly in love, you are on the brink of doing what you came here to do—and that’s intimate relating.  Terrifying?  Yes.  But it’s also the most fun you can have with your clothes on.  No, I mean off.  No, I mean on.  You get the picture.

How to manage your relationships as a Scorpio. . .
I gotta say it:  Boundaries.  Get some.  If you’re like most Scorpios, you’ll learn this the hard way.  When you fall for someone, your first impulse will be to engulf them like the tidal wave I mentioned above.  You’ll want to pull them all the way into your life and you’ll find the tension of unspoken desire and unacted-on passion to be almost more than your body can hold.  But don’t be impulsive or you may get into something that’s not good for you and end up in a world of pain.  Then you end up with someone you can’t trust and it may be hard to know clearly whether they were untrustworthy or you were unable to sink into the relationship.  Getting close to someone slowly is the answer, but it comes with practice.  Excruciating practice.  Sorry, but I’m telling you true.

Do you love a Scorpio?
Ah, you’ve been caught in the gravity well of your local Scorpion.  See ya.  Goodbye.  You’ll be disappearing for a while.  But I can’t possibly begrudge you the time you’ll be spending away from all your usual friends and hobbies in the bed of that amazing Scorpion, because you’re about to experience connecting like you’ve never known before.  It reminds me of the song by the Police, Every Little Thing She Does Is Magic (by my favorite “honorary Scorpio” Sting, who is actually a Libra without a stitch of Scorpio in him, but has Pluto rising).  In that song the singer is blissed out on sex hormones and is quite convinced that the object of his affections is the cause, instead of looking inside himself at his own capacity for blissful passion and desire.  Beware this kind of projection—being told you’re magical is delicious and addictive.

If you have Venus or Juno in Scorpio in your chart, the chances of you dating Scorpions is very high.  How to handle the Scorpio you love. . .

  • Reassure.  Reassure.  Reassure.  Expect that your Scorpion feels perpetually pulled off-center and so will pull you off-center to compensate for his own feelings of vulnerable dependency.
  • Don’t give her what she expects, but give her something better.  She’ll expect you to read her mind and to come and go at her beck and call.  Instead, give her clarity on what you’ll do and won’t do in the relationship, so her expectations are set accordingly.  Then, when you cross your own boundaries to make her happy, she can appreciate it instead of taking it for granted.
  • Batten down the hatches:  there will be drama.  Plan to enjoy it and don’t let your life be wrecked.
  • Take responsibility for the contraception.  (Did I actually say that?  Yes, I did.)
  • If you’ve got strong Water in your chart (Scorpio, Pisces or Cancer), then take off your mask, play full-out and be vulnerable.  Nothing less will do and you will get—and give—the most satisfaction this way.
  • If your Scorpio is male, let him dominate you in bed.  That will be the most fun for everyone.  If your Scorpio is female and you’re not a virile guy, just run.  Now.  She will eat you for breakfast and you won’t even mind.

How to find out more:
In this article there’s only room to hint at the deeper understanding of Scorpio that astrology has to offer.  To find out more about being a Scorpio in Love or loving a Scorpio, join my free teleclass on Thursday, November 6, 2014, at 5:00pm PT/8:00pm ET.  There I’ll be saying much, much more about Scorpio In Love and there will be discounts available too!

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Somebody Stop Me! October 2014’s Lunar Eclipse

October 1st, 2014

This Full Moon (also a Lunar Eclipse) is loaded with vitality and sheer fun. Uranus, Mars and Jupiter team up to form a Grand Trine in Fire signs. During this Moon, Fiery people may be feeling quite full of themselves, not very open to feedback and apt to argue with those who would burst their bubble—try not to be one of those insufferable people. Instead, spread enthusiasm and good intentions far and wide, while remaining considerate of others’ experience of you.

Details About This Eclipse

Date: October 8, 2014
Time of eclipse:
3:51 AM Pacific Time
Type: total (strong in intensity)
Visible in: Most of Asia, Australia, Oceania, North and South America and Greenland.
At: 15º Aries
Shadow Agents:  Uranus in Aries, Mars in Sagittarius, Jupiter in Leo

Does It Affect You Personally?

If your birthday is on any of the following dates, you’re most likely to experience this eclipse:
October 3-13
January 1-10
March 31-April 10
July 2-12

Remember, not every eclipse touches everyone, but when it does, it’s usually noticeable.  A lunar eclipse is likely to bring up strong emotions and to be experienced as a subjective event (unlike a solar eclipse, which is likely to be marked by an external, real-world event).  You may notice events happening anytime within the week surrounding the eclipse (up to a few days before or after).  The following script is just one possible way it could go.

You hear a knock at the door.  You answer it.  There stands the Moon in Aries, with Uranus in Aries right behind him. Mars in Sagittarius is also crowding in the door, pushing past Jupiter in Leo to get by. The whole crew may be only four deities, but it has the energy of a large crowd. The Sun in Libra is in the background, attempting to shush them, but no one is listening to her.
Moon: Bring the keg! It’s time to paaaarrrr-TAY!
Uranus rolls the keg in and sets it up in a corner. It’s the biggest keg you’ve ever seen.
You: What’s in there?
Uranus: Ambrosia of course! Nectar of the gods! You’d better not have any—it’s strong stuff. It intoxicates us, so it would kill you.
You: Gee, thanks for bringing something I can’t have.
Uranus (oblivious): You’re welcome.
Mars (to Jupiter): General Bash-Em, reporting for our meeting.
Jupiter: We haven’t set up the War Room yet. (aside, to Uranus) I don’t have the heart to tell him this is a party, not a battle. (to Mars again) Where is your encampment?
Mars: My men have made camp outside. We have discovered that there are many pleasant grassy areas around here where we can pitch tents. The mess tent is right over there. (points)
You look out the window in the direction he’s pointing and see that he’s set up a large tent right over your herb garden and that your lawn is covered with small tents and soldiers in various states of battle array. The army extends as far as you can see, covering all your neighbors’ lawns too.
Jupiter: Well, invite them in!
You: Oh boy, this is going to really piss my neighbors off. I need all of you out of here—and your soldiers too!
But they ignore you and continue setting up party decorations. The Sun in Libra steps delicately around them and walks up to you. She is wearing a beautiful (and obviously very expensive) designer outfit with a gorgeous hat to complete the ensemble. Her hair is in a tasteful and classic French knot.
Sun: You don’t have to put up with this, you know.
You: I don’t want to put up with this, but what can I do about it? They’re gods and I’m just a puny little human.
Sun: This is an eclipse, remember? The Moon is about to go dark. He could get emotional, and very loud, but you don’t have to put up with this crap.
It strikes you as funny that a deity as well-appointed as the Sun is today should use the indelicate word “crap” but you put that aside and listen. The Sun reaches up and pulls a giant hatpin out of her hat, with a large pearl on the end.
Sun: Watch this.
Meanwhile, the festivities have begun and the Moon is at the center of things, zooming around like a comet, filling glasses, laughing and generally living it up. Jupiter is in the middle of a cosmic joke and Uranus is trying to make a spark come out of the electrical wall-socket. About 30 soldiers are spread around your living room, spilling beer everywhere and completely unconcerned. You could swear that Jupiter, Uranus, Mars and the Moon have literally expanded since they walked into the house. You can hardly believe they still fit in the room, they’re so large. The Sun somehow cuts directly through the fray and pokes the giant Moon with her hatpin. The Moon’s mouth forms an “O” of surprise, then the wailing begins.
Moon (louder than you ever thought possible): I NEEEEver get to have my own way!! I just wanted to have a paaaarrrrrty! I don’t want to go home! I’m having fun! Go away! This is MY party! I’ll cry if I WANT TO!!
Then the Moon simply. . .  deflates. Like a balloon, he shrivels up and become a little flat moon-shape on the floor.
Jupiter (deeply disappointed) You broke him!
Sun: Actually, I didn’t. He’s in a Fire sign. He’ll be fine.
You: Thank god the drama is over.
Sun: I’m the god you can thank for that.
She steps over the Moon, who is already starting to re-inflate, probably because Uranus and Mars have pulled out a pump and are pumping him up with hot air.
Uranus: You can do it!
Mars: Up and at ‘em, soldier!
Jupiter: Think of your pride, man!
Moon: Oh, I’m starting to feel ok. I think I’ll be all right. After all, tomorrow is another day!
All of them together burst into song.
Moon, Jupiter, Uranus, Mars: The sun’ll come out. . . tomorrow! Bet your bottom dollar that tomorrow. . . there’ll be sun. Just thinkin’ about. . . tomorrow. . . clears away the cobwebs and the sorrow. . . till there’s none!
The Sun is leaving, but on her way out the door, she hands you the hatpin.
Sun: I think you’re going to need this. Cheers!
Moon, Jupiter, Uranus, Mars: Tomorrow, tomorrow, I love ya, tomorrow, you’re only a daaaaay aaaaah-waaaaaaaayyyyyy!!!
They all take a bow and slap each other on the back in congratulations. You sigh. It’s going to be a long night. 

Read about other eclipses this year: 2014 Eclipses.

If you’re feeling this eclipse
and you want to know what it means for you,
and especially if your birthday is in one of the spans above,
contact Jamie for a reading.

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Thank You, Mercedes Lackey

September 30th, 2014

Mercedes LackeyDuring one of the hardest periods of my adult life, a time when I was emotionally distraught on a regular basis, withdrawn and having trouble coping, I found Mercedes Lackey’s books and they saved my sanity.

Lackey writes fantasy and a large subset of her books are set in a fictional world called Valdemar, where intelligent beings called Companions mindspeak with humans called Heralds, who are one part marshal, one part angel and one part flawed human being. Companions are essentially large, white horses with blue eyes and they are both psychic and benevolent. Now that’s a lot to swallow if you, Dear Reader, are no longer a teenager, but if you sink into the story you find yourself quickly immersed in a world of heroism, good-vs-evil and derring-do to rival our best beloved legends. Strictly speaking, Lackey’s work is not literature (not any more than that of Stephen King, another of my favorites), but it elevates pulp to a high standard. Perhaps someday it may be called literature, as Dickens’ serials are now.

Lackey’s Valdemar books have become my go-to relaxation books to read. I can count on her to create a world where the good guys win in the end and a child will get to be a hero. When I first found the Valdemar series, I read one, then a trilogy, then avidly ate up everything Valdemar there was. Then, as I didn’t yet feel finished, I read them ALL over again with no break, this time in chronological order. I’m a fast reader and it’s been a couple of years, so I’m thinking of doing it again. While I was on my break, apparently she’s written 5 more and so now I’m reading those.

This blogpost is a fond letter to Mercedes Lackey in gratitude for saving my peace of mind. While reading one of her latest series, I became curious about her chart. In that way that happens when you immerse yourself in a writer’s oeuvre, I feel that I know my way around inside Lackey’s mind. That’s the reader’s arrogance and it occurs the most, I postulate, when the writer is really connected to her work and so the reader feels that connection shine all the way through and right off the page. So I went to Lackey’s chart with some idea of what I’d find.

I expected to find a warm-hearted, geeky girl who lives in her imagination, a rich place indeed. I expected to find a heroic streak, not likely lived out in real life, but in the abstract, through writing. And I expected to find a love of the otherworldly and a big, big faith in the triumph of good. I wasn’t disappointed. Here’s Mercedes Lackey’s chart:

Check out that Mercury in Gemini trine Neptune, circled in yellow. It’s not surprising to discover Lackey is one of the Neptune in Libra generation, a soul-group with a shared vision, a beautiful dream of love, peace and harmony, perpetually asking, “Why can’t we all just get along?” Her Mercury communicates from that place and the Neptune trine guarantees that she sees intuition as a natural extension of rationality and that her writing mind has a deep well of imagination to draw from. Writing, and especially writing fantasy fiction, is a natural talent with her, like breathing. In fact, it’s so easy that it’s almost surprising to see that she actually went to the effort to develop it (most people ignore their natural talents and don’t bother to cultivate them).

The “heroic, but lived in the abstract” side is shown in her Mars in Libra, the white-hatted, white-horsed fellow who wants to win the nice way, the fair way. This is a hero who plays by the rules and fights for the beautiful ideals of Neptune in Libra.

Lackey’s “warm hearted but geeky” side comes straight from her Sun in Cancer conjunct Uranus, which isn’t afraid to stand out and look a little weird in order to march to one’s own drummer. I’ve circled them in blue. Her Cancer Sun is the reason why so many of Lackey’s protagonists are children or teens, at least when they first appear in her world. After that, they grow up quickly.

That Cancer Sun also explains the nurturing handling of her main characters. She puts them through their paces but she is not their punishing god. Punishment is reserved for those with bad intentions. This attitude is also reflective of her Jupiter-trine-Sun, and that Jupiter placed in Pisces, evidence of a faith-oriented personality. Jupiter is also the ruler of her Sagittarius Rising, suggestive that she perceives the world through a Sagittarian lens—as a perpetual quest for meaning and righteousness. Lackey’s portrayal of religion in her works suggests that she believes it is possible to be spiritual and moral outside the bounds of religion, perhaps more so than within. Her Saturn in Virgo in the Ninth House (circled in green) suggests that she grew up in an atmosphere of intolerance, which she herself, as she matured, did not subscribe to. Chiron in Sagittarius in the First squared Saturn underscores that possibility. I’ve never read a biography of Lackey and I don’t even know if one is available, so all this is speculation and shouldn’t be taken as fact.

If it is so that Lackey grew up in an intolerant household, then she has clearly made it her mission to spread tolerant ideas and has created a fantasy world which can positively influence future generations.

That Saturn squares her Mercury, weaving writing into the Great Work of her life, a clarion call she responded to of course, and we get to enjoy the results. Put together with Chiron in Sagittarius, here we find a T-square, suggesting she, at times, has identified as one of the walking wounded and that her healing process is her gift to the world. Whatever that interpretation might mean to her is private, so we’ll draw a curtain over that and move on.

In her transits, Lackey has entered a fallow career period, which I say because Saturn has entered her Twelfth House. This lasts from about Halloween/Samhain of 2013 to January of 2015. It’s a time when Lackey should not expect a lot of herself, should rest, retreat and look inward, preparing for a time of intense work and cultivation of her reputation in 2015 from January to November. This coincides beautifully with a Jupiter Luck period she’ll be having beginning in November of 2015 and lasting for about a year. If I could advise Lackey, I’d say, “Dive deep now and you’ll bounce out really hard at the end of 2015.” She’s also having an intense set of transits to her Neptune, from Jupiter, Uranus and Pluto, over the next year and spilling into 2016, which may trigger a change in direction for her creative content, perhaps for the darker, and knowing Lackey, almost certainly for the better. It’s anybody’s guess what her writing will be like in 2016. Can’t wait to find out.

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High Five! Jupiter Trine Uranus In Fire Signs

September 24th, 2014

ball of lightThe scene is Mount Olympus, a heavenly grassy area atop a mountain with fantastic views in every direction.  You hear a rumbling, then a crashing, and before you know it, Jupiter is running up the mountain from one side and Uranus is running up from the other.  They meet in a resounding high-five that shakes heaven and earth.  After wrestling playfully for a moment, they collapse in laughter.
Jupiter:  This is going to be the BEST!
Uranus:  I know.  We’re going to have a great time.
Jupiter:  What’d you bring?
Uranus:  Assorted lightning bolts and a bolt-thrower.  See?
Out of an enormous pocket he pulls a complicated assembly which is essentially a catapult with a winch at one end.  Next to it he places a giant drum with lightning bolts peeking out the top.  The lightning bolts are making a buzzy, sizzling hum and emitting a neon glow in assorted colors.
Uranus:  I’m all ready to shock humanity with innovation and change.  It’s been a busy year already.  What’d you bring?
Jupiter:  This.
He pulls his hand out of his pocket in a fist.  Opening his fist, a warm glowing ball of light appears there, vibrating and jiggling with energy.
Uranus:  Very nice.  What does it do?
Jupiter:  It will grow anything you put out there.  It will infuse humanity with confidence and leadership ability.
Uranus:  Oh yes, that will definitely work.
Jupiter:  Let’s get started.
Uranus:  Got yer back.
They stand, back to back, and survey the landscape.
Uranus:  I see a community that needs to come together.  It’s close to cohering, but doesn’t really have a center.
Jupiter:  Check the moral structure.
Uranus:  Your job.
Jupiter takes out a spyglass and aims it in the direction Uranus is pointing.
Jupiter:  Hmm, it’s a church.  Or a temple or a mosque—I never can tell the difference from way up here.  Looks like some very nice people, but they’re too scattered.
Uranus:  No strong leadership.  Tolerant people and strong ethical fiber, but there’s no real center.  They need someone charismatic to bring fire.  Who shall we zap?
Jupiter:  That one, right there!  Yes, that one has what it takes!
Uranus cranks up the catapult and locks it down.  Then he pulls out a lightning bolt of medium size and places it in the catapult.  Taking aim, he releases.  The bolt flies true and lands smack on the Human Being in question, down on Earth.  There’s a shudder in the Earth’s emotional body as the feeling-field of the people near that Human Being adjust.  The Human Being is about to be noticed.
Uranus (gleefully):  Your turn!
Jupiter rubs his hands together and pulls them apart.  As he does so, the ball expands.  When it’s the size of a basketball, he lobs it down to Earth, where it bursts into a giant explosion of happy leadership, right in the heart of the Human Being.  The Human Being lights up, gets 10 ideas, and runs to tell everyone.
Uranus (applauding):  Again!
Jupiter:  Definitely.  What’s next?
Uranus:  Let’s build a utopian society, upgrade the morals of a world leader and send some truly innovative thoughts to a few people who are positioned to make a difference.  Then we’ll cause a sleepless night for someone who is ready to step into a leadership role.  And then we’ll hlightning boltead over to the tech industry and spark some ideas about inventions that make life better.  Then we’ll take a break for lunch.
Jupiter:  How long shall we do this for?
Uranus:  Till next June.  That should be enough, don’t you think?
Jupiter:  It’s going to be a busy year!
After another high-five neither deity seems able to stop themselves from, they get back to their fun pursuit.

What Does This Mean For You?

This wonderful trine between Jupiter and Chiron begins in September of 2014 and finishes in June of 2015.  It covers 14-20º of Fire signs, so if you have any planet in that span, you will love this transit.

Enjoy it while you can!  Especially if your birthday falls into these dates:

Arians born:  April 3-10
Geminis born:  June 4-11
Leos born:  August 6-13
Librans born:  October 6-13
Sagittarians born:  December 6-12
Aquarians born:  February 2-9

For more about Jupiter’s passage through Leo, read this:
Jupiter in Leo—Your Time In The Sun 

And here’s a post I made the last time Jupiter and Uranus met in the sky, in 2010.  It had a similar feel:
The Crackle Of Change As Jupiter And Uranus Meet In The Sky 

Are you benefiting from this Uranus/Jupiter trine?

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How Does Libra Love?

September 10th, 2014

Libra heart 1Do you love a Libra?
Are you a Libra in love?

Human relationships are complex, layered things.  Every sign responds to love differently and has needs that are particular to it.  Also no individual can be categorized by their Sun sign alone.  Every person is a mixed bag of astrological traits, but an emphasis on Libra in your chart (or its ruling planet, Venus) will result in distinctly Libran experience.  In particular, if you have the Sun or Moon in Libra OR if you have Venus or Juno in Libra, this article is just for you.

Are you a Libra in love?
Have you noticed that sometimes you can fall in love with love itself?  The sensation of love and the romance that goes with it is intoxicating to a Libra.  And when that sensation takes you over, it’s easy to give too much or to yield too much.  Here we find Libra’s core dilemma—is it better to love or to be loved?  It gets tiresome being the nice guy and you may prefer to have the power of the relationship in your own hands and to be able to pull a partner in at will.  For this reason, ultimately you prefer to charm and seduce rather than pursue.  Why chase someone who isn’t really interested—and who can’t be wrapped around your finger?  That just throws you—and the relationship—off balance.

How to manage your relationships as a Libra. . .
Fairness is one of the most important factors in a relationship for Librans, but striking the balance between giving too much (which is Libra’s natural tendency) and taking too much (to compensate for over-giving) is hard—especially for the Scales.  Your desire to be rational is very right-minded, but how do you know what’s really fair in every situation?  Your mind doesn’t have the whole answer.  It can come up with endless, perfectly logical lists of reasons why to do A or B, but without arriving at a clear conclusion.  For that, you need your gut.  Get good at consulting your emotions, Libra, and decisions—and decisive action—will get easier.

Do you love a Libra?
Do you ever get the feeling that your Libra is just a little bit. . . vain?  Does your Libra secretly like holding all the cards by being “the cute one” in the relationship?  Is the idea of making a decision on his own excruciating for your Libra?  What will happen when your Libra ages beyond the cute years?  Has she gotten lazy, accustomed to getting by on charm?  How does your Libra know what’s really fair?  These things may be a minor annoyance for you, but for your Libra, they are a real problem and if you can help with them, you will prove invaluable to your Libra.  Begin by respecting your Libra’s mind, rather than getting distracted by his/her smoke-and-mirrors charm and beauty.

If you have Venus or Juno in Libra in your chart, the chances of you dating Librans is very high.  How to handle the Libra you love. . .

  • Appreciate the effort she puts into bringing beauty into your life—then tell her that you love her for her inner beauty, not her outer beauty
  • Encourage him to quit being such a “Mr. Nice Guy”
  • Remind her to stand up for herself and to check her emotions for a decisive answer, rather than arguing both sides until total lack of clarity ensues
  • Encourage him to practice making decisions without asking your opinion first, and also without overthinking them
  • When he plays Devil’s Advocate, consider that perhaps he is just presenting a counterpoint for the sake of balance and not because he believes it.  Ask him what he actually thinks and feels about it.
  • Libra’s polished and rational ways can lead to superficiality.  Although it’s distasteful, being a little less civilized (for once!) and a bit more raw might be a good antidote.

How to find out more:
In this article there’s only room to hint at the deeper understanding of Libra that astrology has to offer.  To find out more about being a Libra in Love or loving a Libra, join my free teleclass on Thursday, October 2, 2014, at 5:00pm PT/8:00pm ET.  There I’ll be saying much, much more about Libra In Love and there will be discounts available too!

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Find The Light, Robin Williams

September 1st, 2014

Who didn’t react strongly, even cry immediately, upon hearing of his death?  And especially how he died?  Not me.  I lost it.  In looking at Robin Williams’ chart, I wanted to discover why this might have happened to someone who brought joy to so many.  I went looking for a complex human being, and I found one.

8-31-14 Robin Williams natal chartHis Moon in Pisces describes an emotional nature so subtle and refined that it almost cannot be in the world, and will inevitably lead to disappointment as the world does not live up to one’s ideals.  When discussing Moon in Pisces, I wax poetic and quote Whitman’s Song of Myself: “Do I contradict myself? Very well then, I contradict myself. I am large; I contain multitudes.”  A Pisces Moon person, especially one with a stellium (grouping of planets) in Pisces, will often feel less like an individual and more like a crowd, a veritable sea of possible persons he could be.  He will often feel he is alternately swimming, drowning or lost in a sea of longings, urges, sensations, drives and passions and he isn’t entirely sure which are truly his.  Often, he doesn’t know who he is, really.  Some of these currents of feeling may be his, some may be leaking in from the people he lives and works with, others may be memories that feel real and present right now, and others still may be the tendrils of past-life memories that also feel equally real as they pass through him like an apparition.  With all this going on, how can a Pisces Moon be other than a dreamer?  How to get his feet on the ground?  And he may be prone to gloom and escapism if he doesn’t find his way to a peaceful retreat on a regular basis, where he can empty his heart, before returning to the world where it will inevitably go on sponging up emotions and sensations.

In fact, Williams’ chart is so full of sensitivity (loaded with Water), intensity, darkness and even gloom (Scorpio Rising with Pluto culminating and square the Ascendant) that in looking at it, I wondered where the comedian was.  I looked at Saturn, the usual career indicator, but Williams’ Saturn is equally serious, placed in Virgo and square Chiron.  I finally found the funny bone in his Jupiter square Uranus (a placement Ellen Degeneres also has, and also in Fire and Water).  This is an apt descriptor of Williams’ electric, fast-moving and even manic wit, and explains the attraction to cocaine.  It also explains his amazing capacity to free-associate new material on the spot.  One critic called him “an endless gusher of invention.”  This ability was amply used in some of his best-loved work: Mork & Mindy, Good Morning, Vietnam and Aladdin.

But I’m coming to a major point here:  the comedian in Williams was not his whole self—not remotely—and when someone who can be funny is expected to be funny all the time, it takes its toll.

Having Scorpio Rising isn’t easy—it usually gives its natives a feeling of being raw and exposed all the time.  How each Scorpio Rising individual copes with his own unremitting feeling of overexposure is his own business, but if life is a university and we are tested on whether we live out our charts in positive or negative ways, then Williams deserves a high grade.  His Wikipedia page says, “Many comedians valued the way he worked highly personal issues into his comedy routines, especially his honesty about drug and alcohol addiction, along with depression.”  Not easy for anyone to be that transparent, let alone a highly sensitive, at times paranoid, Scorpio Riser.

If Williams struggled with anything, it was marriage.  He was married three times (1st House Juno trine Sun was probably responsible for that) and fathered several children.  His Venus in Virgo tightly conjunct the South Node suggests a tendency towards extremely high, perhaps unattainable, standards in relationship.  Some Virgo Venus natives apply these standards to their partners and some to themselves; either way a Virgo Venus individual has a hard time simply allowing love in.  The South Node connection implies re-engaging with past-life partners in this one, sometimes for completion of past karma, sometimes resulting in entanglement that prevents the native from moving forward.  Williams’ Pisces Moon opposed that Venus, suggesting the ability to be emotionally devoted to a partner, but also to give and receive in unequal measure. Such a person often has trouble balancing love of another with care of oneself.  He may give to others too much, then retreat and suck energy from the other excessively.  It’s extremely hard to balance, as it contains a big streak of self-sacrifice and self-abnegation.

I mentioned before that his chart was loaded with Water, and we need look no further than this when we ask ourselves, “why suicide?”  One astrological blogger comments, “No matter what role he was playing, clown or serious, actor or humanitarian, there was always sadness in Robin Williams eyes. Always.”  The guy just plain felt everything.  It shows in his chart’s trifecta:  Cancer Sun, Scorpio Rising, Pisces Moon.  All Water.

This is the kind of situation I can only hold in my mind because I believe in reincarnation.  So I think this life is one of many, and not just many hundreds, but uncountable millions of lifetimes that an individual lives.  If you believe that suicides go to hell (whether literally or metaphorically), then you might think Robin is in hell now.  And that’s a very sad thought.  But I have a different one.  Maybe that Pisces Moon of his never came all the way into the world in the first place.  Maybe it had one toe in the otherworld all along.  Maybe this was a relief, to let go of the burden of the body, to slip out and away into the light.

But that would be heretical to say, wouldn’t it?  Against all our instincts and our morals too (in an area where for once they agree).  But the fact is, we don’t know what happens after death.  We have what religions have told us and we have what those who have come near death and returned report to us.  But mostly, we just don’t know.  For my own peace of mind, I have to think that suicide is seen by God/the Universe/All-That-Is as a chance for a reboot.  I have to believe that being alive is a choice.  Not to be taken lightly, but a choice nonetheless.  A choice that can be revoked if the soul gets in too deep.  I also have to believe that every human life belongs to its owner first and foremost.  If we own anything, our own life should top the list.  So if Robin Williams decided he was done, and he wanted to grip the otherworld with the toehold he still had in it, and pull himself over there, who am I to judge?  If I were family, then I know I would feel differently, and I’d have a right to.  But because I’m not, all I can say is, “Look for the light, Robin, as you fly, fly away.”

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How Does Virgo Love?

August 8th, 2014

Do you love a Virgo?
Are you a Virgo in love?Virgo heart 2

Human relationships are complex, layered things.  Every sign responds to love differently and has needs that are particular to it.  Also no individual can be categorized by their Sun sign alone.  Every person is a mixed bag of astrological traits, but an emphasis on Virgo in your chart (or its ruling planet, Mercury) will result in distinctly Virgoan experience.  In particular, if you have the Sun or Moon in Virgo OR if you have Venus or Juno in Virgo, this article is just for you.

Are you a Virgo in love?

Then get ready to surrender to the experience and let love wash over you.  This is not easy for Virgo to do—after all, it’s the sign of the Virgin, right?  But elsewhere on my blog I’ve said that Virgos are sexy without even trying and I stand by that.  So exactly how does a self-contained Virgo let loose?  How does an organized Virgo get disheveled?  How does a well-regulated, controlling, anal-retentive Virgo go mad with desire?  THOROUGHLY, believe me.  They say no one behaves badly like a lapsed Catholic and a lapsed Virgo is awfully good at being bad, when he decides to be.  When a person who pays attention to details attends to the seduction of you, you’d best simply give up resisting.  You don’t stand a chance.

How to manage your relationships as a Virgo. . .

As I hinted above, your microscopic attention to detail may be your best feature in relationship.  It may also be your worst.  You know this already:  the problem lies in criticism.  Criticism of others can kill your relationships and self-criticism can kill your attempts to get into a relationship.  What to do?  Practice appreciation.  Noticing the flaws will always be your forte and there’s no stopping you from doing that, but you can decide to notice the good things as well—the beauties, the charms, the delights, the good traits and the positive movement your partner shows you.  The more you notice these wonderful things your partnership gives you access to, the more of them there will be to notice.

Do you love a Virgo?

Then you might need advice on how to warm her up and get her to let her hair down.  Or at least, you MIGHT not need that at first, but eventually, you will.  Because once her brain kicks in and she starts thinking, she may reconsider the relationship.  When a Virgo gets her heart broken a lot, she begins to think about what she deserves.  If she has high self-esteem, she might avoid relationship altogether because no sign (possibly excepting Aries) is as self-reliant.  If she decides to try and “have it all” she might throw away a not-bad or even a pretty-good relationship in search of a perfect one.  But that animal doesn’t exist.  You’ll have to work to keep her around without her feeling she has settled.

In the next section, you’ll find some tips on how to do that.

If you have Venus or Juno in Virgo in your chart, the chances of you dating Virgoans is very high.  How to handle the Virgo you love. . .

  • Be clean and well-organized.  You think I’m kidding?  I’m not.  It’s a cliché that happens to be true.  If she has to clean up after you for the rest of your life, why would she want to marry you?  Modern Virgos are nobody’s servants.
  • If you marry him, be as hard-working as he is.  This will gain his respect, which is just as worth having as his love.  It also means he can work less and relax with you more.
  • When he criticizes you, praise him in return.  He will notice he’s being small and this will embarrass him (in a good way).  Also, you will model how you want to be communicated with.
  • Notice the ways she wants to be a better person and take a stand for her becoming that person.  When she picks on herself, tell her you know she can do better and that you’re just waiting for her better self to emerge.  You will gain all of her attention this way.
  • Become a better person yourself.  And report on your progress to her.  Not in a boasting way, but in a “progress report” kind of way.  Engage her in your process of self-improvement; really share it with her.
  • Tell him often how much you value his opinion, presence, affection and attention in your life.  That will for sure garner you more of it.  But don’t flatter, because you’ll come off as insincere.  Be brief, be to the point, then move on.

How to find out more:

In this article there’s only room to hint at the deeper understanding of Virgo that astrology has to offer.  To find out more about being a Virgo in Love or loving a Virgo, get this teleconference call recording:

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In it, you’ll discover:

  • Why your Virgo is so critical–and self-critical—and how to soothe his perfectionism
  • What your Virgo needs in order to sink into committed relationship with you
  • Signs Virgo is most compatible with, and why
  • And if you are a Virgo, you’ll learn the benefits you bring to every relationship you’re in and the relationship-killers you absolutely must avoid

To get the recording, email me at Pandora@pandoraastrology.com for a fast and easy MP3 download.

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