How Does Libra Love?

September 10th, 2014

Libra heart 1Do you love a Libra?
Are you a Libra in love?

Human relationships are complex, layered things.  Every sign responds to love differently and has needs that are particular to it.  Also no individual can be categorized by their Sun sign alone.  Every person is a mixed bag of astrological traits, but an emphasis on Libra in your chart (or its ruling planet, Venus) will result in distinctly Libran experience.  In particular, if you have the Sun or Moon in Libra OR if you have Venus or Juno in Libra, this article is just for you.

Are you a Libra in love?
Have you noticed that sometimes you can fall in love with love itself?  The sensation of love and the romance that goes with it is intoxicating to a Libra.  And when that sensation takes you over, it’s easy to give too much or to yield too much.  Here we find Libra’s core dilemma—is it better to love or to be loved?  It gets tiresome being the nice guy and you may prefer to have the power of the relationship in your own hands and to be able to pull a partner in at will.  For this reason, ultimately you prefer to charm and seduce rather than pursue.  Why chase someone who isn’t really interested—and who can’t be wrapped around your finger?  That just throws you—and the relationship—off balance.

How to manage your relationships as a Libra. . .
Fairness is one of the most important factors in a relationship for Librans, but striking the balance between giving too much (which is Libra’s natural tendency) and taking too much (to compensate for over-giving) is hard—especially for the Scales.  Your desire to be rational is very right-minded, but how do you know what’s really fair in every situation?  Your mind doesn’t have the whole answer.  It can come up with endless, perfectly logical lists of reasons why to do A or B, but without arriving at a clear conclusion.  For that, you need your gut.  Get good at consulting your emotions, Libra, and decisions—and decisive action—will get easier.

Do you love a Libra?
Do you ever get the feeling that your Libra is just a little bit. . . vain?  Does your Libra secretly like holding all the cards by being “the cute one” in the relationship?  Is the idea of making a decision on his own excruciating for your Libra?  What will happen when your Libra ages beyond the cute years?  Has she gotten lazy, accustomed to getting by on charm?  How does your Libra know what’s really fair?  These things may be a minor annoyance for you, but for your Libra, they are a real problem and if you can help with them, you will prove invaluable to your Libra.  Begin by respecting your Libra’s mind, rather than getting distracted by his/her smoke-and-mirrors charm and beauty.

If you have Venus or Juno in Libra in your chart, the chances of you dating Librans is very high.  How to handle the Libra you love. . .

  • Appreciate the effort she puts into bringing beauty into your life—then tell her that you love her for her inner beauty, not her outer beauty
  • Encourage him to quit being such a “Mr. Nice Guy”
  • Remind her to stand up for herself and to check her emotions for a decisive answer, rather than arguing both sides until total lack of clarity ensues
  • Encourage him to practice making decisions without asking your opinion first, and also without overthinking them
  • When he plays Devil’s Advocate, consider that perhaps he is just presenting a counterpoint for the sake of balance and not because he believes it.  Ask him what he actually thinks and feels about it.
  • Libra’s polished and rational ways can lead to superficiality.  Although it’s distasteful, being a little less civilized (for once!) and a bit more raw might be a good antidote.

How to find out more:
In this article there’s only room to hint at the deeper understanding of Libra that astrology has to offer.  To find out more about being a Libra in Love or loving a Libra, join my free teleclass on Thursday, October 2, 2014, at 5:00pm PT/8:00pm ET.  There I’ll be saying much, much more about Libra In Love and there will be discounts available too!

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Find The Light, Robin Williams

September 1st, 2014

Who didn’t react strongly, even cry immediately, upon hearing of his death?  And especially how he died?  Not me.  I lost it.  In looking at Robin Williams’ chart, I wanted to discover why this might have happened to someone who brought joy to so many.  I went looking for a complex human being, and I found one.

8-31-14 Robin Williams natal chartHis Moon in Pisces describes an emotional nature so subtle and refined that it almost cannot be in the world, and will inevitably lead to disappointment as the world does not live up to one’s ideals.  When discussing Moon in Pisces, I wax poetic and quote Whitman’s Song of Myself: “Do I contradict myself? Very well then, I contradict myself. I am large; I contain multitudes.”  A Pisces Moon person, especially one with a stellium (grouping of planets) in Pisces, will often feel less like an individual and more like a crowd, a veritable sea of possible persons he could be.  He will often feel he is alternately swimming, drowning or lost in a sea of longings, urges, sensations, drives and passions and he isn’t entirely sure which are truly his.  Often, he doesn’t know who he is, really.  Some of these currents of feeling may be his, some may be leaking in from the people he lives and works with, others may be memories that feel real and present right now, and others still may be the tendrils of past-life memories that also feel equally real as they pass through him like an apparition.  With all this going on, how can a Pisces Moon be other than a dreamer?  How to get his feet on the ground?  And he may be prone to gloom and escapism if he doesn’t find his way to a peaceful retreat on a regular basis, where he can empty his heart, before returning to the world where it will inevitably go on sponging up emotions and sensations.

In fact, Williams’ chart is so full of sensitivity (loaded with Water), intensity, darkness and even gloom (Scorpio Rising with Pluto culminating and square the Ascendant) that in looking at it, I wondered where the comedian was.  I looked at Saturn, the usual career indicator, but Williams’ Saturn is equally serious, placed in Virgo and square Chiron.  I finally found the funny bone in his Jupiter square Uranus (a placement Ellen Degeneres also has, and also in Fire and Water).  This is an apt descriptor of Williams’ electric, fast-moving and even manic wit, and explains the attraction to cocaine.  It also explains his amazing capacity to free-associate new material on the spot.  One critic called him “an endless gusher of invention.”  This ability was amply used in some of his best-loved work: Mork & Mindy, Good Morning, Vietnam and Aladdin.

But I’m coming to a major point here:  the comedian in Williams was not his whole self—not remotely—and when someone who can be funny is expected to be funny all the time, it takes its toll.

Having Scorpio Rising isn’t easy—it usually gives its natives a feeling of being raw and exposed all the time.  How each Scorpio Rising individual copes with his own unremitting feeling of overexposure is his own business, but if life is a university and we are tested on whether we live out our charts in positive or negative ways, then Williams deserves a high grade.  His Wikipedia page says, “Many comedians valued the way he worked highly personal issues into his comedy routines, especially his honesty about drug and alcohol addiction, along with depression.”  Not easy for anyone to be that transparent, let alone a highly sensitive, at times paranoid, Scorpio Riser.

If Williams struggled with anything, it was marriage.  He was married three times (1st House Juno trine Sun was probably responsible for that) and fathered several children.  His Venus in Virgo tightly conjunct the South Node suggests a tendency towards extremely high, perhaps unattainable, standards in relationship.  Some Virgo Venus natives apply these standards to their partners and some to themselves; either way a Virgo Venus individual has a hard time simply allowing love in.  The South Node connection implies re-engaging with past-life partners in this one, sometimes for completion of past karma, sometimes resulting in entanglement that prevents the native from moving forward.  Williams’ Pisces Moon opposed that Venus, suggesting the ability to be emotionally devoted to a partner, but also to give and receive in unequal measure. Such a person often has trouble balancing love of another with care of oneself.  He may give to others too much, then retreat and suck energy from the other excessively.  It’s extremely hard to balance, as it contains a big streak of self-sacrifice and self-abnegation.

I mentioned before that his chart was loaded with Water, and we need look no further than this when we ask ourselves, “why suicide?”  One astrological blogger comments, “No matter what role he was playing, clown or serious, actor or humanitarian, there was always sadness in Robin Williams eyes. Always.”  The guy just plain felt everything.  It shows in his chart’s trifecta:  Cancer Sun, Scorpio Rising, Pisces Moon.  All Water.

This is the kind of situation I can only hold in my mind because I believe in reincarnation.  So I think this life is one of many, and not just many hundreds, but uncountable millions of lifetimes that an individual lives.  If you believe that suicides go to hell (whether literally or metaphorically), then you might think Robin is in hell now.  And that’s a very sad thought.  But I have a different one.  Maybe that Pisces Moon of his never came all the way into the world in the first place.  Maybe it had one toe in the otherworld all along.  Maybe this was a relief, to let go of the burden of the body, to slip out and away into the light.

But that would be heretical to say, wouldn’t it?  Against all our instincts and our morals too (in an area where for once they agree).  But the fact is, we don’t know what happens after death.  We have what religions have told us and we have what those who have come near death and returned report to us.  But mostly, we just don’t know.  For my own peace of mind, I have to think that suicide is seen by God/the Universe/All-That-Is as a chance for a reboot.  I have to believe that being alive is a choice.  Not to be taken lightly, but a choice nonetheless.  A choice that can be revoked if the soul gets in too deep.  I also have to believe that every human life belongs to its owner first and foremost.  If we own anything, our own life should top the list.  So if Robin Williams decided he was done, and he wanted to grip the otherworld with the toehold he still had in it, and pull himself over there, who am I to judge?  If I were family, then I know I would feel differently, and I’d have a right to.  But because I’m not, all I can say is, “Look for the light, Robin, as you fly, fly away.”

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How Does Virgo Love?

August 8th, 2014

Do you love a Virgo?
Are you a Virgo in love?Virgo heart 2

Human relationships are complex, layered things.  Every sign responds to love differently and has needs that are particular to it.  Also no individual can be categorized by their Sun sign alone.  Every person is a mixed bag of astrological traits, but an emphasis on Virgo in your chart (or its ruling planet, Mercury) will result in distinctly Virgoan experience.  In particular, if you have the Sun or Moon in Virgo OR if you have Venus or Juno in Virgo, this article is just for you.

Are you a Virgo in love?

Then get ready to surrender to the experience and let love wash over you.  This is not easy for Virgo to do—after all, it’s the sign of the Virgin, right?  But elsewhere on my blog I’ve said that Virgos are sexy without even trying and I stand by that.  So exactly how does a self-contained Virgo let loose?  How does an organized Virgo get disheveled?  How does a well-regulated, controlling, anal-retentive Virgo go mad with desire?  THOROUGHLY, believe me.  They say no one behaves badly like a lapsed Catholic and a lapsed Virgo is awfully good at being bad, when he decides to be.  When a person who pays attention to details attends to the seduction of you, you’d best simply give up resisting.  You don’t stand a chance.

How to manage your relationships as a Virgo. . .

As I hinted above, your microscopic attention to detail may be your best feature in relationship.  It may also be your worst.  You know this already:  the problem lies in criticism.  Criticism of others can kill your relationships and self-criticism can kill your attempts to get into a relationship.  What to do?  Practice appreciation.  Noticing the flaws will always be your forte and there’s no stopping you from doing that, but you can decide to notice the good things as well—the beauties, the charms, the delights, the good traits and the positive movement your partner shows you.  The more you notice these wonderful things your partnership gives you access to, the more of them there will be to notice.

Do you love a Virgo?

Then you might need advice on how to warm her up and get her to let her hair down.  Or at least, you MIGHT not need that at first, but eventually, you will.  Because once her brain kicks in and she starts thinking, she may reconsider the relationship.  When a Virgo gets her heart broken a lot, she begins to think about what she deserves.  If she has high self-esteem, she might avoid relationship altogether because no sign (possibly excepting Aries) is as self-reliant.  If she decides to try and “have it all” she might throw away a not-bad or even a pretty-good relationship in search of a perfect one.  But that animal doesn’t exist.  You’ll have to work to keep her around without her feeling she has settled.

In the next section, you’ll find some tips on how to do that.

If you have Venus or Juno in Virgo in your chart, the chances of you dating Virgoans is very high.  How to handle the Virgo you love. . .

  • Be clean and well-organized.  You think I’m kidding?  I’m not.  It’s a cliché that happens to be true.  If she has to clean up after you for the rest of your life, why would she want to marry you?  Modern Virgos are nobody’s servants.
  • If you marry him, be as hard-working as he is.  This will gain his respect, which is just as worth having as his love.  It also means he can work less and relax with you more.
  • When he criticizes you, praise him in return.  He will notice he’s being small and this will embarrass him (in a good way).  Also, you will model how you want to be communicated with.
  • Notice the ways she wants to be a better person and take a stand for her becoming that person.  When she picks on herself, tell her you know she can do better and that you’re just waiting for her better self to emerge.  You will gain all of her attention this way.
  • Become a better person yourself.  And report on your progress to her.  Not in a boasting way, but in a “progress report” kind of way.  Engage her in your process of self-improvement; really share it with her.
  • Tell him often how much you value his opinion, presence, affection and attention in your life.  That will for sure garner you more of it.  But don’t flatter, because you’ll come off as insincere.  Be brief, be to the point, then move on.

How to find out more:

In this article there’s only room to hint at the deeper understanding of Virgo that astrology has to offer.  To find out more about being a Virgo in Love or loving a Virgo, get this teleconference call recording:

Virgo In Love      MP3 recording      45 minutes      $9.97

In it, you’ll discover:

  • Why your Virgo is so critical–and self-critical—and how to soothe his perfectionism
  • What your Virgo needs in order to sink into committed relationship with you
  • Signs Virgo is most compatible with, and why
  • And if you are a Virgo, you’ll learn the benefits you bring to every relationship you’re in and the relationship-killers you absolutely must avoid

To get the recording, email me at Pandora@pandoraastrology.com for a fast and easy MP3 download.

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Jupiter In Leo—Your Time In The Sun

August 3rd, 2014

Jupiter is in Leo from July 16, 2014 to August 11, 2015

Jupiter planet image 2Jupiter expands. . . but can Leo get any bigger?
Leos may find their already-sunny personalities expanded this year.  If this sounds like both a good and a bad thing, that’s because it is.  You probably know a Leo (or two) who seems to take over every space they walk into, even when they swear they aren’t trying.  Do you cringe at the idea of this person becoming louder and more self-centered?  You may also know a Leo (or two) who could stand to grow into themselves and express themselves more, and the idea of that person taking up more space may be entirely appealing.

This year Jupiter’s passage into Leo will fuel the creative fires for Leos of all stripes, and lend confidence to any planet you have in Leo, even if it’s not your sun sign, but hidden a little deeper in your chart.

On being a benevolent ruler
At LionSpiritits best, the Leo side of human nature lives life royally, but with a constraint dictated by “noblesse oblige” or the idea that “nobility obligates.”  The privilege of being noble comes with the responsibility to do good with the power that’s been put in your hands.  Sometimes this is driven by a very basic Leonine desire to look good and behaving in a queenly or princely fashion therefore has its appeal.  Whatever reason is behind it, let’s encourage it in our local Leos this year.

My dear Lions and Lionesses out there:  has nature made you a natural leader, someone that others follow just so they can bask in your glow?  Have you noticed that your attention is powerful and that other people look up to you?  Then Leo, become the “gentle giant,” and put away your hobnail boots, treading lightly on the lives of those around you, especially those who are not as fortunate as you are.

Are you afraid of being a target?
Then most likely you have a de-emphasis on Leo in your chart or possibly any Leo planets you do have are struggling.  What to do?  Take on leadership this year.  Practice being seen.  You might even try—gasp!—performance.  Find a creative outlet and then. . . let your creativity out.  Don’t hold it in.  Let other people see it.  Yes, it’s risky.  Yes, you might get noticed.  Learn to receive attention.  It’s a great thing to be able to do.  Find a low-risk, small way to begin it and it will grow from there.  Play unselfconsciously, as children do.  Before you know it, you’ll get bitten by the creative bug and then you won’t want to stop.

Is it your time in the sun?
If you are a Leo, this should be a pretty good year for you.  This transit will be especially nice for Leos born between August 4 and August 15.  Additionally, Scorpio, Aquarius and Taurus people born in the corresponding week of their own month will be going through a time of expansion too:

Leos born August 4-15
Scorpios born November 4-15
Aquarians born February 1-10
Taureans born May 2-12

If you have Jupiter in Leo, i.e. if your age is going on a multiple of 12 (i.e. if you are just about to turn 24, 36, 48, 60, etc), then you are having a Jupiter Return year—a wonderful year of luck, charisma and leadership.  Not to say that nothing bad can happen to you this year, but anything bad that does happen probably would have been worse if it weren’t for your Jupiter Return in progress.  And anything good will be enhanced by it.  Look to the house where your natal Jupiter is placed—your native self-confidence in that area will be bolstered this year.

Enjoy your time in the sun!

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How Does Leo Love?

July 18th, 2014

Leo heart 1Do you love a Leo?
Are you a Leo in love?

Human relationships are complex, layered things.  Every sign responds to love differently and has needs that are particular to it.  Also no individual can be categorized by their Sun sign alone.  Every person is a mixed bag of astrological traits, but an emphasis on Leo in your chart (or the Sun, its ruling planet) will result in distinctly Leonine experience.  In particular, if you have the Sun or Moon in Leo OR if you have Venus or Juno in Leo, this article is just for you.

Are you a Leo in love?
Then you must also be proud of the object of your affections because for Leo, the Beloved is an extension of self and if your partner doesn’t look good and make you look good, you won’t be interested for long. Show your partner off and expand your aura to enfold her. If you’re the man, protect her and allow her the privilege of decorating your arm. If you’re the woman, let your glow expand your man’s masculinity (how did he ever get such a glorious creature?).  This big and showy courtship display is all just part of the fun—and a necessary part for Leo. To be Leo is to love big and to fully claim and be claimed. If you’re not proud of your partnership, then best get out. Every evolved Leo knows that this is all a game, but a really fun one and a game that must be played.

How to manage your relationships as a Leo. . .
You can be a pretty self-conscious person and generous to a fault with those you include in your realm, but one thing must be remembered and that is that embarrassing you is a deal-breaker. Making you look bad in public is equally verboten. All this said, remember that your partner is a sovereign being (as you are) and will make his own decisions and have his own needs. You are not the only royalty in this relationship. Treating your partner as an equal while secretly believing yourself to be superior will undermine love and rot it from within. Similarly, worshipping your partner as above you will also break love down eventually. If you must have superiority and inferiority, then divide your shared kingdom into principalities where each of you agree you may rule absolutely. Then practice diplomatic deference along those territorial lines.

Do you love a Leo?
Did I say “territorial?” Oh yes, Leo can be that way. Prepare to have a flag stuck in your chest, for you are about to be owned. If that’s sexy for you, you’ll have a terrific time and a truly grand passion. If it makes you feel claustrophobic, then you’re in for trouble and you’d best make ready for flight. It is a rare Leo who doesn’t tolerate PDA’s (“public displays of affection”), perhaps even demand them. You do realize that in every house cat you’ve ever been granted the privilege of being acquainted with, you have a model of Leonine behavior, right? And what does a house cat do? Demand to be petted and in doing so, it rubs its scent glands all over you, clearly marking you as its territory for all other nearby cats to smell.

If you have Venus or Juno in Leo in your chart, the chances of you dating Leos is very high.  How to handle the Leo you love. . .

  • If your Leo beloved is hiding out, avoiding the spotlight and being a wallflower, then get her center stage! Gently perhaps, but notice her unique creativity. A little sunlight will perk her right up.
  • Practice loving from a place of self-sovereignty.  (Join the teleclass below to find out what I mean by that.)
  • Remember your Leo’s roar is bigger than his bite. When your Leo roars, it’s because he feels ignored, unseen, small. Like any animal in the wild, his aggressive display poofs him up several times bigger than he is. It will pass and if you really hear him, he’ll listen to you.
  • The hair. Be careful of the hair. All praise the coif. You think I’m kidding? Try it and see.
  • Every Leo needs a good audience. The best audience is one who “gets it” but is not prone to flattery. If you can intelligently and lovingly critique your Leo’s creativity and spur her to greater heights, you will be invaluable.
  • Hint: A Leo doesn’t have to be arrogant and dominant if he feels truly in control. Take that hint into your relationship and see what you can make of it.

How to find out more:

In this article there’s only room to hint at the deeper understanding of Leo that astrology has to offer.  To find out more about being a Leo in Love or loving a Leo, get this teleconference call recording:

Leo In Love      MP3 recording      45 minutes      $9.97

In it, you’ll discover:

  • Why your Leo can be an attention-hound—and how to enjoy mutually exciting give-and-take with him
  • What your Leo needs in order to sink into committed relationship with you
  • Signs Leo is most compatible with, and why
  • And if you are a Leo, you’ll learn the benefits you bring to every relationship you’re in and the relationship-killers you absolutely must avoid

To get the recording, email me at Pandora@pandoraastrology.com for a fast and easy MP3 download.

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“Is It Just Me Or Is This A Universal Truth?”

July 5th, 2014

People are complicated. Astrology is equally complicated. There’s no other way of looking at human personality that is as granular, specific and pointed as astrology (in the hands of a good practitioner). EVERY other personality system, psychological theory or perspective emerged from a human mind and thus is limited to unconscious human bias. In fact, you can actually see a thinker’s chart themes inside his theories.

But most people never become familiar with their own astrology charts, and don’t have the objective view of self that such knowledge brings, so they present their systems of thought as if they were universal truths. Everyone’s perspective is his own, but presented as if it were universal because we all think our life is THE life. Because we view the planetary influences in our chart as fused with life itself, we think that our perspectives, our philosophies, our beliefs and approaches are universal and should apply to everyone.

Here are some examples of ways an individual’s perspective can be seen in his chart:
Carl Jung: Why did he come to develop the idea of universal archetypes and the collective unconscious? Because Neptune is squared his Sun and he was therefore set up from birth with a sensitivity to the otherworldly.

7-5-14 Nietzsche imageFriedrich Nietzsche: Why did he study theology, then embrace philosophy and declare “God is dead?” Because his deeply religious Jupiter in Pisces is opposed by a rigorous and argumentative Mars in Virgo and he was doomed to never embrace one without balancing it with the other.

7-5-14 Gandhi imageWhy did it take a Ghandi to birth the idea of peaceful civil disobedience? Because he had Venus in his First House trine Uranus in his Ninth and thus viewed fairness and radicalism not as opposites, but as a continuum.

And in more modern times:
7-5-14 Prince imageWhy does Prince see everything through a lens of strong sexuality? Because he has Scorpio Rising ruled by Pluto at the Midheaven and thus a tendency to put that which others think should be hidden on display.
(And why do I mention Prince after Jung, Nietszche and Ghandi, as if he’s a great thinker? Because he is a Gemini and I have an irrational fondness for Geminis, due to my own Venus in Gemini.)
Was Jim Bakker’s huge television following a result of his faith in God or of his Pisces Rising’s ability to show what he wanted others to see? And how much of a part did his Neptune opposite Jupiter and Mars play in the vigor of his Bible-thumping and his fall due to the lure of fame?

Obviously, I could go on and on and this brings me to the main question of this blogpost, which is, “how do you know when your experience is universal and when it’s just yours?” The answer: your astrology chart knows. There’s no better tool for self-understanding, and your chart is not a product of someone else’s philosophy or worldview. It’s a creation of natural science (although it has to be interpreted by humans).

In a way, it’s a good thing that the people I’ve listed above never sat down with an astrologer who told them, “Oh no, that’s not universal, that’s just your thing.” Because if they had, think of all the books, philosophies, radical acts and songs that would never have been created. And since participating in a sit-in while reading Nietzsche, watching old episodes of the 700 Club and listening to Prince is a great way to spend an afternoon, that would be very sad.

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How Does Cancer Love?

June 16th, 2014

Cancer heart 1Do you love a Cancerian?
Are you a Cancer in love?

Human relationships are complex, layered things.  Every sign responds to love differently and has needs that are particular to it.  Also no individual can be categorized by their Sun sign alone.  Every person is a mixed bag of astrological traits, but an emphasis on Cancer in your chart (or the Moon, its ruling planet) will result in distinctly Cancerian experience.  In particular, if you have the Sun or Moon in Cancer OR if you have Venus or Juno in Cancer, this article is just for you.

Are you a Cancer in love?
Then you are loyal and tenacious.  You probably don’t expect as much back as you give and you come into love with your heart all the way open.  That’s why you’ve gotten hurt so many times.  But don’t let it harden your shell, because love is a reason to be alive and each time you feel “that lovin’ feeling” stealing over you again, you’re reminded that loving is more pleasurable than being loved. . . and so you fall.  Cancers are better at marrying than dating.  Dating involves being shiny, which is not Cancer’s strong suit.  Cancer is much better at the “in sickness and in health” part.  And that’s a real gift.

How to manage your relationships as a Cancer. . .
You are a giver, but beware your tendency to place yourself in the background and then complain about not being noticed or appreciated—whining will not get you the emotional merging you desire.  Being open to love will, and you excel at that.  Do you think the world doesn’t understand you?  You’re right.  You swim in emotional subtleties that go unseen and unremarked by most people.  Pay attention to how you feel and what motivates you.  Clear your emotional pipes often—keep your waters flowing, allow no stagnation.  And don’t do anything you don’t want to do, even for those you love.

Do you love a Cancer?
Then I envy you.  You’ve discovered one of love’s hidden assets—unconditional love that doesn’t demand.  Or mostly doesn’t demand.  Your beloved Cancerian does have a tendency to extract attention from you without directly asking for it.  And if you go on not noticing your local Cancer for a long time, woe betide you—punishment will rain down on your head.  But the blessings are just as great, because no other sign is as good at sticking with you through the hard times—in fact, hard times seem to make your Cancerian even more attached and supportive.  And isn’t that how it should be?

If you have Venus or Juno in Cancer in your chart, the chances of you dating Cancerians is very high.  How to handle the Cancer you love. . .

  • Let her take care of you, because she enjoys doing it, but not too much, or she will extract a fee later, and you won’t know what till it happens.  Cancer is not vicious, but can come to feel put-upon and unwilling to recognize that they did it to themselves.
  • Tell him how much you appreciate that he shares his feelings with you.  Tell him often and without him having to fish for it.
  • When she complains and acts helpless, remind her that she’s powerful and then kick her butt in the right direction (not before).
  • Recognize that your Cancerian is an emotional being who grew up in a not-emotionally intelligent world that invalidates everything essential and true about him.  Have compassion for this.
  • Give more to your Cancer partner than you expect to receive, and without asking for anything in particular in return.  You will find your home life improves radically in many ways you could never have expected.
  • If your Cancer wife wants to be a stay-at-home mom and you can provide for her to do that, do so.  Then turn your home over to her and respect her often for all she accomplishes there.  Think of her as a self-employed entrepreneur whose product is a few expertly-raised human beings and count yourself lucky.

How to find out more:

In this article there’s only room to hint at the deeper understanding of Cancer that astrology has to offer.  To find out more about being a Cancer in Love or loving a Cancer, get this teleconference call recording:

Cancer In Love      MP3 recording      45 minutes      $9.97

In it, you’ll discover:

  • Why your Cancer can be prone to codependence—and how to support his independence without loss of yummy merging
  • What your Cancer needs in order to sink into committed relationship with you
  • Signs Cancer is most compatible with, and why
  • And if you are a Cancer, you’ll learn the benefits you bring to every relationship you’re in and the relationship-killers you absolutely must avoid

To get the recording, email me at Pandora@pandoraastrology.com for a fast and easy MP3 download.

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Why Do Zodiac Signs Hate Their Neighbors?

May 30th, 2014

That sounds like a funny question, doesn’t it?  But have you ever noticed that your sign doesn’t really get along with the two signs next to it?  In fact, they may seem to be about as opposite as possible.  This may seem like an odd way to have the zodiac work, but it’s true and actually, it’s part of the design.

So let’s think about this for a minute.  If you’re a Cancer, aren’t you secretly repelled by all those superficial Geminis out there?  It’s ironic, because you could have a little Gemini in you if you are a Cancer, but the pure, watery nature of Cancer itself is very uncomfortable with Gemini logic and Cancer’s intuition feels that it’s beyond that.  Similarly, after Cancer we come to Leo, the star of the show, who deplores Cancer’s introversion.  Why hide behind Mama’s skirts when you can shine?  And Virgo, the next sign, looks at Leo with annoyance, “why can’t Leo tone it down a little?”  Earthy Virgo takes pride in delivering substance, not just fiery bluff and bluster.  All of the signs have attitude about the sign just before them and the sign after them is, well, beyond them.  So each zodiac sign is as different as possible in its basic nature from its neighbors.  But why should that be?

It’s because the zodiac is not just a collection of disconnected signs, but a holistic rhythm.  This may seem obvious to you if you’ve been reading astrology books for ages, but I remember when I was first starting to study astrology, and I encountered the writings of Dane Rudhyar (a great astrological thinker), who was the first to put forth this idea around the turn of the 1900s, and it was a new idea then.  The zodiac is a rhythm.  For a rhythm to flow, it needs to pulse.  It needs to incorporate contrast, differentness and complementarity.  For every up there is a down; for every “this” there is a “that.”  So we have blustery, excitable Fire always followed by staid, solid Earth, which is always followed by cerebral, theoretical Air, followed by emotional, intuitive Water, followed by blustery, excitable Fire again.  And this is how the signs are arranged, so the result is, the zodiac pulses, kind of like a heartbeat.  It has rhythm through the contrasting traits of signs as different as possible following each other.

There’s another nice side-effect to this rhythmic arrangement, which is that it allows human beings to be quite complex.  That happens because Mercury and Venus can always be found just a sign or two away from the Sun.  Astronomically, that’s because they orbit the Sun more closely than the Earth does.  So you’ll never find Mercury in opposition to the Sun in a birth chart.  And this means that Mercury and Venus may be in signs with natures very different from the Sun sign, adding complex layers to a person’s personality.

So the zodiac signs hate their neighbors.  And that benefits us, because we human beings are vast.  We get to encompass strong contrast inside a single human personality.  We get the opportunity to integrate greatly differing traits inside ourselves.  This makes us, and our lives, very, very interesting.

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Jupiter Trines Chiron: The Shaman And The Priest

May 13th, 2014

Jupiter and Chiron have met at the Edge of the World.  It’s a misty place where the physical world meets the metaphysical one.  Some of the passageways you already know about are there, such as the wardrobe that leads to Narnia, Dr. Who’s tardis and other magical entry-points.  Jupiter is wearing the long, flowing robes of a priest of no particular denomination—he looks like he could lead a dharma talk or deliver a sermon.  Chiron is wearing nothing but a piece of cloth wrapped around his middle, and carrying a staff with a fearsome creature’s face atop it—perhaps a totem animal, the face of an ancestor, or a defeated enemy’s head.  The two meet and shake hands firmly. 

Jupiter:  Shall we get to work?
Chiron:  Yes, of course.
Chiron waves his staff and the air ripples, as if there is a heat-induced mirage.  Then a doorway appears, a portal.  Inside the portal there is mist—it is impossible to see very far and all the colors are in softened shades of gray.
Chiron:  Are they ready?
Jupiter:  On my side, they’ve been lining up for centuries.  And on yours?
Chiron:  There’s no knowing, because time doesn’t exist there.
Jupiter claps his hands three times, and suddenly there is a line of people extending for miles.  Each stands with hands at sides, eyes closed and wearing a simple white shift.  They are obviously asleep.  
Jupiter (beckoning):  Come forward, please.
The first Human steps forward haltingly.
Jupiter:  What is your wish?
First Human:  I wish to relieve karma in my family line.  I have an ancestor whose pain I have been carrying and whose lessons I am to learn.  I wish to check in with this ancestor.
Jupiter:  Your wish is a fine one.  You may go to the portal.
First Human walks awkwardly to the portal, where Chiron awaits.
Chiron:  I have found your ancestor.  You may speak with her.  Step in and I will make sure you return safely to your waking life.
First Human touches his hand in gratitude and steps through the portal.  
Second Human steps forward.  
Jupiter:  What is your wish?
Second Human:  I wish to communicate with the spirit of my unborn child, to make a connection and to create a safe pregnancy and birth.  I wish to make a spiritual contract to help bring a life into the world.
Jupiter:  Your wish is a fine one.  You may go to the portal.
Second Human:  Thank you.  And she does so.
Chiron:  Your little one awaits you on the other side.  He says things may not turn out as you expect, and that you have to be patient, but he wants to be with you, so you may speak with him to arrange it.  I will make sure you return safely to your waking life.
Second Human eagerly crosses the threshold.
Third Human steps forward.  
Jupiter:  What is your wish?
Third Human:  I have been wronged and I desire justice.
Jupiter:  Your wish is a false one.  If your desire is for peace, you can find that here.  If it is for punishment, you’d best go back to your waking life.
A look of anger crosses Third Human’s face.
Third Human:  I have been wronged!  I wish for life’s balance to deal out pain where pain was given!
Jupiter:  Your bitterness will not bring you peace.  Let it go and pursue your own joy.  The person who hurt you will find pain to match it elsewhere, and that is not your story to know.  In your story, you have the power to be the place where the pain stops.  Dream of that, and for now, return to your sleep and awaken refreshed and ready to begin again.
He touches the forehead of Third Human, whose face relaxes and who turns and stumbles away toward the Waking World.
Fourth Human steps forward, holding a large messenger bag.
Jupiter:  What is your wish?
Fourth Human:  I have letters I wish to be delivered to my younger self and questions for my older self.  I want to encourage my younger self to pursue my dreams and ambitions and to be brave in the face of the challenges I know are to come.  I also want to ask my older self for guidance in moving toward the best future I can have.
Jupiter:  Your wish is a fine one.  You may go to the portal.
Fifth Human steps forward.
Jupiter:  What is your wish?
Fifth Human:  I am consumed with jealousy.  If I could just find out if my partner is cheating on me, I could have relief.
Jupiter:  Your wish is a false one.  If your desire is for peace, you can find that here.  If it is for punishment, you’d best go back to your waking life.
Fifth Human starts in confusion.
Fifth Human:  But we made a promise to each other!  That promise has been broken, I’m sure of it!
Jupiter:  You do not own each other.  Love yourself first and then others.  If you cannot trust your partner, then empty your heart.  After it heals, seek to share love elsewhere.  And for now, return to deep sleep, and awaken to your waking life refreshed and ready to begin again.
He touches the heart of Fifth Human, whose face relaxes and who turns and stumbles away toward the Waking World.
As there are thousands of sleeping Human Beings in line, ready for guidance or some other connection with the world of spirit, these two will obviously be busy for the rest of this harmonious transit.

This wonderful trine between Jupiter and Chiron began in August of 2013 and finishes in May of 2014.  Enjoy it while you can!  Especially if your birthday falls into these dates:

Capricorns born:  January 1-7
Pisceans born:  March 1-8
Taureans born:  May 1-8
Cancers born:  July 2-9
Virgos born:  September 3-10
Scorpios born:  November 3-10

For more about Jupiter and Chiron in Water signs this year, check out these posts:
Chiron Enters Pisces: Find Healing In The Ocean Of Dreams

Jupiter in Cancer—Endless Summer

And if you are unfamiliar with Chiron and want to understand the Wounded Healer and Shaman better, here ya go:  “Chiron?” What The Heck Is That?

Are you benefiting from this Chiron/Jupiter trine?

If you want to know how to use this time more effectively,


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How Does Gemini Love?

May 11th, 2014

Do you love a Gemini?
 Are you a Gemini in love?

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Human relationships are complex, layered things.  Every sign responds to love differently and has needs that are particular to it.  Also no individual can be categorized by their Sun sign alone.  Every person is a mixed bag of astrological traits, but an emphasis on Gemini in your chart (or Mercury, its ruling planet) will result in a distinctly Geminian experience.  In particular, if you have the Sun or Moon in Gemini OR if you have Venus or Juno in Gemini, this article is just for you.

Are you a Gemini in love?
How did you ever get that way?  Someone must have stimulated your mind and made you really think.  Someone must have challenged your intelligence or shown that their vocabulary is (temporarily) larger than yours.  Someone must have not bored you.  That’s the only way you could possibly have fallen into the irrational state we call love.  Well, now that you’re there, let’s make the best of it.  Enjoy turning off your active brain for a while and let the sensation of romance wash over you.  Quick, before you start thinking again!  What?  It’s too late?  Then your partner had better be witty, intelligent and mentally agile, or you will flit away like a butterfly.

How to manage your relationships as a Gemini. . .
The famous duality of the Twins is not an asset in relationship.  Both sides of you must like the person you’re dating or it’s a non-starter.  For you, liking is as important as loving.  Here’s another thing: you like to gather all the data before making a decision and that can mean postponing things like monogamy, proposals, marriage, or even dating at all.  You may not want to let your beloved in on your full thought process until it’s complete, and your beloved may feel as if he has been kept out of the loop, or even downright deceived.  You’re of two minds—that can’t be helped.  But communicating all your thoughts (instead of just the ones that will be received positively) is the honorable thing to do.

Do you love a Gemini?
I admire you.  I pity you too (I have Venus in Gemini myself).  Get out your butterfly net—you’re going to need it.  Certainly, a Gemini is hard to catch and then where will you keep him?  Not in a cage, certainly.  He must want to stay with you of his own free will—and that’s always changing.  You’re putting yourself in a vulnerable position, giving your heart to Gemini.  But if you’ve just had a conversation that started as a brief chat at a party and ended 6 hours later in a bar or bedroom, then you’re hooked.  It’s quite possible you met online and if so, be sure to meet in person before placing your heart in your Gemini’s hands.  After all, love is not just a theory.

If you have Venus or Juno in Gemini in your chart, the chances of you dating a Gemini is very high.  How to handle the Gemini you love. . .

  • Feed his curiosity with interesting questions.  Listen with interest to his factoids.
  • Be patient.  She will surely flit away but just as likely she will flit back—especially if you are not grasping.  All you have to do is wait.
  • Praise his intelligence, but value his wisdom even more highly.  As he ages, he will acquire more of it.
  • Squash her snarky gossip; she’s covering a fear of inadequacy with it.  Instead, encourage her to bring open-mindedness and objectivity to her friendships, and to listen more and talk less.  Her friendships will deepen and last longer.
  • Don’t press your Gemini to make decisions too fast, or after inadequate data-gathering.  And definitely don’t expect swift action.
  • Share your favorite book with her.  Tell you why you love it.  Find out what hers is.

How to find out more:

In this article there’s only room to hint at the deeper understanding of Gemini that astrology has to offer.  To find out more about being a Gemini in Love or loving a Gemini, get this teleconference call recording:

Gemini In Love      MP3 recording      45 minutes      $9.97

In it, you’ll discover:

  • Why your Gemini is so hard to catch and keep—and how to hold his interest for a lifetime
  • What your Gemini needs in order to sink into committed relationship with you
  • Signs Gemini is most compatible with, and why
  • And if you are a Gemini, you’ll learn the benefits you bring to every relationship you’re in and the relationship-killers you absolutely must avoid

To get the recording, email me at Pandora@pandoraastrology.com for a fast and easy MP3 download.

Not a Gemini?  Find out about YOUR sign in love by joining the free teleclass for it, coming up in your birthday month:

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