That should be fairly obvious: like a creampuff, a Capricorn is crusty on the outside and soft, gooshy and sweet in the middle. Capricorn comes on as tough, boundaried, strong, even armored. But once you get past the crusty exterior, inside the heart and soul of your favorite Capricorn you’ll find a wealth of affection, sentimentality and softness.
But how do you get past the initial coolness, skepticism and reserve? How do you win a Capricorn over?
It begins when you show respect. Every Capricorn has secretly longed to be truly, deeply respected, ever since they were small. In fact, the younger they are, the more they need it; as they age, they naturally feel more respect for themselves, and thus need it less from others. But for any Capricorn, respect is the way to begin and without it you’ll get nowhere. Honor and validate their boundaries; they have them for a reason. If everyone knew what a soft-touch your local Capricorn really is, he would be under siege all the time and he knows it. Let your Capricorn friend know that you will wait patiently outside the walls forever if need be. Then watch the portcullis go up!
The next step is to be worthy of respect, yourself. No Capricorn will suffer fools gladly. Here are some more clues about what exactly that means . . .
Do what you say you’ll do. Yep, it’s that simple. If you make outrageous promises, or even tiny promises, that you do not keep, no Cap can take you seriously. Promise what you know you can do and then do that. To some readers, this may sound boring, but to Capricorns it is behavior worthy of their interest. And believe me, Capricorn interest is worth garnering.
Have appropriate boundaries. Don’t blurt out your whole life-story or dissolve into tears on first acquaintance. And definitely don’t ask for a loan, even a small one. Wait a reasonable amount of time before deepening your acquaintance. There’s no underestimating the power of propriety in the mind of a Capricorn.
Mind your reputation. Don’t act like a fool in public (and watch the public displays of affection!). Note that making your Capricorn look foolish by association with you will surely drive them away.
Make a difference in the world. Do something important. Make a contribution. Making money is generally attractive to Capricorns, but that’s not the whole story. Wealth, prestige, power and status may be attention-grabbers in the mind of your Capricorn buddies, but what they are really interested in is what you did to get to the position you are in. Did you build a company from scratch? Did you patent something useful? Do you serve others in a meaningful way? Are you truly expert in what you do? Do you conduct yourself in a professional way? These are the things that matter.
So let’s say you’ve done a few of these things and gotten the interest of your local Capricorn. What now? Know that once a Cap lets you in, they let you in all the way, therefore be gentle. The trust of a Capricorn is hard-earned, so once you’ve been let inside the high-security, password-protected, Capricorn inner sanctum, tread lightly and know that you have achieved a position of true privilege. Abuse it at your peril. Every Capricorn secretly bears a stamp on their forehead that says, “Expensive, but worth it.”
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