Do you know why Cancer types are so lovable? Emotional intelligence, that’s why. And the root of emotional intelligence is soothing—self-soothing and the soothing of others. This sensitive Water sign quickly learns that life is lived through a feeling-filter (it’s true even for those who claim to not be emotional). Cancers soothe by becoming adept at connecting emotionally with human beings in general. Here’s just some of the great stuff Cancers learn as they swim through life’s waters.
Cancers Soothe Because They Know Love Is Valuable
Cancers quickly learn to value love and the ability to love above being right or being strong. They are not usually stoic people. A Cancer would usually rather be connected to someone they love, even if that connection is painful, than be shut out. Cancers are not usually interested in superiority or in dominating (unless they’ve got a Leo streak). Loving, connecting and bonding and feeling-with are high on their value scale.
Sympathy and Empathy Matter
An emotionally intelligent Cancer is adept at sympathizing and empathizing with the emotions of others. Cancers are naturally supportive and sympathetic, which gives them an edge when it comes to establishing rapport and connecting with others. Being able to feel-with and feel-for others binds them to you. Cancers are great bonders.
Know Thyself Emotionally
Cancer understands how important it is to know what you are feeling. One of the first and best pieces of knowledge that a smart Cancer learns is how to tell the difference between an emotion, an intuition and a mood. An emotion is any feeling you have. An intuition is a feeling you should pay attention to, even if you don’t know why you are having it, because it’s trying to guide you. A mood is a passing feeling that you don’t want to act on, because such impulses lead to bad choices. Smart Cancers know the difference.
Self-Soothing Cancers say: Manage Your Feelings
Knowing the differences between kinds of emotions leads to knowing how to manage your own emotions. When you know why you feel what you feel, then it’s easy to know what you should do about that (or not). So, suppose you just met someone and you took an instant dislike to him. Is that because there’s something creepy about him or is that because you’re in a sensitive mood or is it because he reminds you of somebody who was mean to you years ago? Each situation calls for a different response and you need to know how to choose.
Cancers Soothe By Pouring Love Into Everything
As a Cancer matures, she becomes able to channel emotions into life in ways that make a difference. As soon as she’s comfortably situated, or at least oriented (and sometimes even before!) she looks around for things that need nurturing and she begins pouring love, care and thoughtfulness into those things. And whether those things include babies, gardens, businesses, projects, people or pets, under the loving gentle rain of Cancerian care, they cannot help but blossom.
It’s not necessary to have your Sun, Moon or Rising in Cancer to develop intuitive ability. Every human being alive has Cancerian emotional intelligence. Cultivate yours and watch your world flower!
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